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How to tell someone I'd like to become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them?
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I met someone at a party last weekend through our mutual friends. We got along pretty well and realized we had some common interests. We discussed a lot until I was called by a friend to help with the barbecue and when I came back, they'd left (they were not feeling well because of a combination of tiredness and too much drinking).
I really liked talking to them and they told me the feeling was mutual. I'd like to see whether we could become friends. The thing is, I don't know how to tell them I'd like to either chat online or meet - in order to see if we could become friends - without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them. They know I'm married but I didn't have the chance to see whether they were bothered by it because I told them shortly before I left to help my friend. We talked about meeting again for coffee but that was before they knew about my spouse so I don't know whether that was supposed to be a date.
I'd like to befriend them but I don't want them to think something romantic could happen between us. I don't have their number but we're friends on social media. They haven't talked to me online since the party, except when I asked them whether they were feeling okay after leaving because of illness.
How could I tell them that I'd like to keep talking to them and see if we can become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them?
Additional info:
- I've had trouble in the past where I tried to befriend someone who then thought I wanted to date them. I'm autistic and my way of expressing interest in getting to know someone is sometimes likely to be confused with romantic interest.
- If it's not possible to convey my interest in a friendship without seeming romantically interested, then I'd rather not contact them again.
- They told me they're single when we were discussing. I use "they/them" both because I'm not straight (even though I may pass as straight), and I don't know their orientation. I'm married to a straight person and they're from the same gender as my spouse, though.
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I met someone at a party last weekend through our mutual friends. We got along pretty well and realized we had some common interests. We discussed a lot until I was called by a friend to help with the barbecue and when I came back, they'd left (they were not feeling well because of a combination of tiredness and too much drinking).
I really liked talking to them and they told me the feeling was mutual. I'd like to see whether we could become friends. The thing is, I don't know how to tell them I'd like to either chat online or meet - in order to see if we could become friends - without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them. They know I'm married but I didn't have the chance to see whether they were bothered by it because I told them shortly before I left to help my friend. We talked about meeting again for coffee but that was before they knew about my spouse so I don't know whether that was supposed to be a date.
I'd like to befriend them but I don't want them to think something romantic could happen between us. I don't have their number but we're friends on social media. They haven't talked to me online since the party, except when I asked them whether they were feeling okay after leaving because of illness.
How could I tell them that I'd like to keep talking to them and see if we can become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them?
Additional info:
- I've had trouble in the past where I tried to befriend someone who then thought I wanted to date them. I'm autistic and my way of expressing interest in getting to know someone is sometimes likely to be confused with romantic interest.
- If it's not possible to convey my interest in a friendship without seeming romantically interested, then I'd rather not contact them again.
- They told me they're single when we were discussing. I use "they/them" both because I'm not straight (even though I may pass as straight), and I don't know their orientation. I'm married to a straight person and they're from the same gender as my spouse, though.
making-friends social-media
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This seems rather similar to interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/19511/…
– DaveG
6 hours ago
@DaveG it is related indeed. However, this coworker I used to see every day (I left my job but we'very become friends before I quit). In this case the only way to talk is via social media.
– avazula♦
5 hours ago
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I met someone at a party last weekend through our mutual friends. We got along pretty well and realized we had some common interests. We discussed a lot until I was called by a friend to help with the barbecue and when I came back, they'd left (they were not feeling well because of a combination of tiredness and too much drinking).
I really liked talking to them and they told me the feeling was mutual. I'd like to see whether we could become friends. The thing is, I don't know how to tell them I'd like to either chat online or meet - in order to see if we could become friends - without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them. They know I'm married but I didn't have the chance to see whether they were bothered by it because I told them shortly before I left to help my friend. We talked about meeting again for coffee but that was before they knew about my spouse so I don't know whether that was supposed to be a date.
I'd like to befriend them but I don't want them to think something romantic could happen between us. I don't have their number but we're friends on social media. They haven't talked to me online since the party, except when I asked them whether they were feeling okay after leaving because of illness.
How could I tell them that I'd like to keep talking to them and see if we can become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them?
Additional info:
- I've had trouble in the past where I tried to befriend someone who then thought I wanted to date them. I'm autistic and my way of expressing interest in getting to know someone is sometimes likely to be confused with romantic interest.
- If it's not possible to convey my interest in a friendship without seeming romantically interested, then I'd rather not contact them again.
- They told me they're single when we were discussing. I use "they/them" both because I'm not straight (even though I may pass as straight), and I don't know their orientation. I'm married to a straight person and they're from the same gender as my spouse, though.
making-friends social-media
edited 14 mins ago
DaveG
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I met someone at a party last weekend through our mutual friends. We got along pretty well and realized we had some common interests. We discussed a lot until I was called by a friend to help with the barbecue and when I came back, they'd left (they were not feeling well because of a combination of tiredness and too much drinking).
I really liked talking to them and they told me the feeling was mutual. I'd like to see whether we could become friends. The thing is, I don't know how to tell them I'd like to either chat online or meet - in order to see if we could become friends - without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them. They know I'm married but I didn't have the chance to see whether they were bothered by it because I told them shortly before I left to help my friend. We talked about meeting again for coffee but that was before they knew about my spouse so I don't know whether that was supposed to be a date.
I'd like to befriend them but I don't want them to think something romantic could happen between us. I don't have their number but we're friends on social media. They haven't talked to me online since the party, except when I asked them whether they were feeling okay after leaving because of illness.
How could I tell them that I'd like to keep talking to them and see if we can become friends without letting them think I'm romantically interested in them?
Additional info:
- I've had trouble in the past where I tried to befriend someone who then thought I wanted to date them. I'm autistic and my way of expressing interest in getting to know someone is sometimes likely to be confused with romantic interest.
- If it's not possible to convey my interest in a friendship without seeming romantically interested, then I'd rather not contact them again.
- They told me they're single when we were discussing. I use "they/them" both because I'm not straight (even though I may pass as straight), and I don't know their orientation. I'm married to a straight person and they're from the same gender as my spouse, though.
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This seems rather similar to interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/19511/…
– DaveG
6 hours ago
@DaveG it is related indeed. However, this coworker I used to see every day (I left my job but we'very become friends before I quit). In this case the only way to talk is via social media.
– avazula♦
5 hours ago
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This seems rather similar to interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/19511/…
– DaveG
6 hours ago
@DaveG it is related indeed. However, this coworker I used to see every day (I left my job but we'very become friends before I quit). In this case the only way to talk is via social media.
– avazula♦
5 hours ago
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This seems rather similar to interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/19511/…
– DaveG
6 hours ago
This seems rather similar to interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/19511/…
– DaveG
6 hours ago
@DaveG it is related indeed. However, this coworker I used to see every day (I left my job but we'very become friends before I quit). In this case the only way to talk is via social media.
– avazula♦
5 hours ago
@DaveG it is related indeed. However, this coworker I used to see every day (I left my job but we'very become friends before I quit). In this case the only way to talk is via social media.
– avazula♦
5 hours ago
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If you want to meet with someone but don't want them to think you are considering romance, invite them and their partner (if any) to get together with you and your partner / spouse. That makes it clear that nothing is "under the table" or hidden, you are interested in a social encounter rather than a romantic encounter.
This advice is based on personal experience, both from when I was single, and having been with a partner / wife for a number of years.
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If you want to meet with someone but don't want them to think you are considering romance, invite them and their partner (if any) to get together with you and your partner / spouse. That makes it clear that nothing is "under the table" or hidden, you are interested in a social encounter rather than a romantic encounter.
This advice is based on personal experience, both from when I was single, and having been with a partner / wife for a number of years.
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If you want to meet with someone but don't want them to think you are considering romance, invite them and their partner (if any) to get together with you and your partner / spouse. That makes it clear that nothing is "under the table" or hidden, you are interested in a social encounter rather than a romantic encounter.
This advice is based on personal experience, both from when I was single, and having been with a partner / wife for a number of years.
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If you want to meet with someone but don't want them to think you are considering romance, invite them and their partner (if any) to get together with you and your partner / spouse. That makes it clear that nothing is "under the table" or hidden, you are interested in a social encounter rather than a romantic encounter.
This advice is based on personal experience, both from when I was single, and having been with a partner / wife for a number of years.
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If you want to meet with someone but don't want them to think you are considering romance, invite them and their partner (if any) to get together with you and your partner / spouse. That makes it clear that nothing is "under the table" or hidden, you are interested in a social encounter rather than a romantic encounter.
This advice is based on personal experience, both from when I was single, and having been with a partner / wife for a number of years.
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This seems rather similar to interpersonal.stackexchange.com/questions/19511/…
– DaveG
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@DaveG it is related indeed. However, this coworker I used to see every day (I left my job but we'very become friends before I quit). In this case the only way to talk is via social media.
– avazula♦
5 hours ago