How to deal with a manager who frequently makes subtle, racist remarks about my religion and ethnic origin?How do I deal with harrassment from two employees where evidence was gotten through questionable means?How to deal with a coworker who makes hateful comments about my religion?Told boss about racist remarks coworker made, but they don't want HR involved. What do I do?Asked about my religion and politics during job interviewHow should I deal with executives who lie to investors?How to deal with offensive jokes from our client's project manager?How should I deal with my team member who shows extreme jealousy?How to deal with a colleague who harasses me for seemingly no reason?How to deal with a rude and impolite receptionistDealing with a racist and misogynistic manager, as a contractor?
career in signal processing
Is "Busen" just the area between the breasts?
Am I legally required to provide a (GPL licensed) source code even after a project is abandoned?
Understanding the reasoning of the woman who agreed with Shlomo to "cut the baby in half"
Can humans ever directly see a few photons at a time? Can a human see a single photon?
Shooting someone's past self using special relativity
Why is "Congress shall have power to enforce this article by appropriate legislation" necessary?
How do I farm creepers for XP without them exploding?
Prime sieve in Python
UK - Working without a contract. I resign and guy wants to sue me
Should an enameled cast iron pan be seasoned?
Why don't countries like Japan just print more money?
Intuition for the role of diffeomorphisms
Putting a plot inside a tab
Is there any proof that high saturation and contrast makes a picture more appealing in social media?
Is it possible to get a mortgage with a custom duration in the US?
Methodology: Writing unit tests for another developer
Do I need a shock-proof watch for cycling?
Story about a space war, and a human prisoner of war captured by alien enemy
How many people are necessary to maintain modern civilisation?
What is the origin of Scooby-Doo's name?
How would modern naval warfare have to have developed differently for battleships to still be relevant in the 21st century?
"Permanent resident of UK” for a British travel insurance in the US
What happened to Steve's Shield in Iron Man 2?
How to deal with a manager who frequently makes subtle, racist remarks about my religion and ethnic origin?
How do I deal with harrassment from two employees where evidence was gotten through questionable means?How to deal with a coworker who makes hateful comments about my religion?Told boss about racist remarks coworker made, but they don't want HR involved. What do I do?Asked about my religion and politics during job interviewHow should I deal with executives who lie to investors?How to deal with offensive jokes from our client's project manager?How should I deal with my team member who shows extreme jealousy?How to deal with a colleague who harasses me for seemingly no reason?How to deal with a rude and impolite receptionistDealing with a racist and misogynistic manager, as a contractor?
.everyoneloves__top-leaderboard:empty,.everyoneloves__mid-leaderboard:empty,.everyoneloves__bot-mid-leaderboard:empty margin-bottom:0;
I'm muslim, brown and middle eastern. No, my name isn't actually Joe as my username suggests.
He normally intends these comments as something humourous but sometimes he is serious too. Neither is comfortable. Some examples I remember below:
- about my friend "Was he a terrorist?". This is the latest one and it really got me thinking.
- nearly every day at lunch "Are you fasting today?". Muslims fast for the month of Ramadan and sometimes outside, but we don't fast everyday and we're probably not fasting while we are eating lunch.
- about a certain family members career "Are they a doctor?"
- To me "Do you like bacon?" or some variation where I'm eating pork. Muslims generally don't eat pork and he asks this quite frequently.
- paraphrasing here "middle eastern countries are backwards and oppressive".
I'm afraid if I complain it'll reflect in my performance review as my manager is the one who alone does it. I'm the only brown and Muslim person at my work, so it'll be obvious I reported it.
I'm also contemplating simply leaving. My last manager was a racist too, but only on occasion (like a couple times a year, she'd make a comment). Here, I'm faced with this nearly every day and while I didn't mind it too much at first, it's gotten to the point where I'm not comfortable anymore.
Any practical suggestions would be helpful.
ethics discrimination harassment racism
add a comment |
I'm muslim, brown and middle eastern. No, my name isn't actually Joe as my username suggests.
He normally intends these comments as something humourous but sometimes he is serious too. Neither is comfortable. Some examples I remember below:
- about my friend "Was he a terrorist?". This is the latest one and it really got me thinking.
- nearly every day at lunch "Are you fasting today?". Muslims fast for the month of Ramadan and sometimes outside, but we don't fast everyday and we're probably not fasting while we are eating lunch.
- about a certain family members career "Are they a doctor?"
- To me "Do you like bacon?" or some variation where I'm eating pork. Muslims generally don't eat pork and he asks this quite frequently.
- paraphrasing here "middle eastern countries are backwards and oppressive".
I'm afraid if I complain it'll reflect in my performance review as my manager is the one who alone does it. I'm the only brown and Muslim person at my work, so it'll be obvious I reported it.
I'm also contemplating simply leaving. My last manager was a racist too, but only on occasion (like a couple times a year, she'd make a comment). Here, I'm faced with this nearly every day and while I didn't mind it too much at first, it's gotten to the point where I'm not comfortable anymore.
Any practical suggestions would be helpful.
ethics discrimination harassment racism
1
If you are afraid to complain to your boss or to HR, leaving should work.
– Joe Strazzere
20 mins ago
add a comment |
I'm muslim, brown and middle eastern. No, my name isn't actually Joe as my username suggests.
He normally intends these comments as something humourous but sometimes he is serious too. Neither is comfortable. Some examples I remember below:
- about my friend "Was he a terrorist?". This is the latest one and it really got me thinking.
- nearly every day at lunch "Are you fasting today?". Muslims fast for the month of Ramadan and sometimes outside, but we don't fast everyday and we're probably not fasting while we are eating lunch.
- about a certain family members career "Are they a doctor?"
- To me "Do you like bacon?" or some variation where I'm eating pork. Muslims generally don't eat pork and he asks this quite frequently.
- paraphrasing here "middle eastern countries are backwards and oppressive".
I'm afraid if I complain it'll reflect in my performance review as my manager is the one who alone does it. I'm the only brown and Muslim person at my work, so it'll be obvious I reported it.
I'm also contemplating simply leaving. My last manager was a racist too, but only on occasion (like a couple times a year, she'd make a comment). Here, I'm faced with this nearly every day and while I didn't mind it too much at first, it's gotten to the point where I'm not comfortable anymore.
Any practical suggestions would be helpful.
ethics discrimination harassment racism
I'm muslim, brown and middle eastern. No, my name isn't actually Joe as my username suggests.
He normally intends these comments as something humourous but sometimes he is serious too. Neither is comfortable. Some examples I remember below:
- about my friend "Was he a terrorist?". This is the latest one and it really got me thinking.
- nearly every day at lunch "Are you fasting today?". Muslims fast for the month of Ramadan and sometimes outside, but we don't fast everyday and we're probably not fasting while we are eating lunch.
- about a certain family members career "Are they a doctor?"
- To me "Do you like bacon?" or some variation where I'm eating pork. Muslims generally don't eat pork and he asks this quite frequently.
- paraphrasing here "middle eastern countries are backwards and oppressive".
I'm afraid if I complain it'll reflect in my performance review as my manager is the one who alone does it. I'm the only brown and Muslim person at my work, so it'll be obvious I reported it.
I'm also contemplating simply leaving. My last manager was a racist too, but only on occasion (like a couple times a year, she'd make a comment). Here, I'm faced with this nearly every day and while I didn't mind it too much at first, it's gotten to the point where I'm not comfortable anymore.
Any practical suggestions would be helpful.
ethics discrimination harassment racism
ethics discrimination harassment racism
edited 23 mins ago
Joe B
asked 30 mins ago
Joe BJoe B
1597
1597
1
If you are afraid to complain to your boss or to HR, leaving should work.
– Joe Strazzere
20 mins ago
add a comment |
1
If you are afraid to complain to your boss or to HR, leaving should work.
– Joe Strazzere
20 mins ago
1
1
If you are afraid to complain to your boss or to HR, leaving should work.
– Joe Strazzere
20 mins ago
If you are afraid to complain to your boss or to HR, leaving should work.
– Joe Strazzere
20 mins ago
add a comment |
0
active
oldest
votes
Your Answer
StackExchange.ready(function()
var channelOptions =
tags: "".split(" "),
id: "423"
;
initTagRenderer("".split(" "), "".split(" "), channelOptions);
StackExchange.using("externalEditor", function()
// Have to fire editor after snippets, if snippets enabled
if (StackExchange.settings.snippets.snippetsEnabled)
StackExchange.using("snippets", function()
createEditor();
);
else
createEditor();
);
function createEditor()
StackExchange.prepareEditor(
heartbeatType: 'answer',
autoActivateHeartbeat: false,
convertImagesToLinks: false,
noModals: true,
showLowRepImageUploadWarning: true,
reputationToPostImages: null,
bindNavPrevention: true,
postfix: "",
imageUploader:
brandingHtml: "Powered by u003ca class="icon-imgur-white" href="https://imgur.com/"u003eu003c/au003e",
contentPolicyHtml: "User contributions licensed under u003ca href="https://creativecommons.org/licenses/by-sa/3.0/"u003ecc by-sa 3.0 with attribution requiredu003c/au003e u003ca href="https://stackoverflow.com/legal/content-policy"u003e(content policy)u003c/au003e",
allowUrls: true
,
noCode: true, onDemand: true,
discardSelector: ".discard-answer"
,immediatelyShowMarkdownHelp:true
);
);
Sign up or log in
StackExchange.ready(function ()
StackExchange.helpers.onClickDraftSave('#login-link');
);
Sign up using Google
Sign up using Facebook
Sign up using Email and Password
Post as a guest
Required, but never shown
StackExchange.ready(
function ()
StackExchange.openid.initPostLogin('.new-post-login', 'https%3a%2f%2fworkplace.stackexchange.com%2fquestions%2f138741%2fhow-to-deal-with-a-manager-who-frequently-makes-subtle-racist-remarks-about-my%23new-answer', 'question_page');
);
Post as a guest
Required, but never shown
0
active
oldest
votes
0
active
oldest
votes
active
oldest
votes
active
oldest
votes
Thanks for contributing an answer to The Workplace Stack Exchange!
- Please be sure to answer the question. Provide details and share your research!
But avoid …
- Asking for help, clarification, or responding to other answers.
- Making statements based on opinion; back them up with references or personal experience.
To learn more, see our tips on writing great answers.
Sign up or log in
StackExchange.ready(function ()
StackExchange.helpers.onClickDraftSave('#login-link');
);
Sign up using Google
Sign up using Facebook
Sign up using Email and Password
Post as a guest
Required, but never shown
StackExchange.ready(
function ()
StackExchange.openid.initPostLogin('.new-post-login', 'https%3a%2f%2fworkplace.stackexchange.com%2fquestions%2f138741%2fhow-to-deal-with-a-manager-who-frequently-makes-subtle-racist-remarks-about-my%23new-answer', 'question_page');
);
Post as a guest
Required, but never shown
Sign up or log in
StackExchange.ready(function ()
StackExchange.helpers.onClickDraftSave('#login-link');
);
Sign up using Google
Sign up using Facebook
Sign up using Email and Password
Post as a guest
Required, but never shown
Sign up or log in
StackExchange.ready(function ()
StackExchange.helpers.onClickDraftSave('#login-link');
);
Sign up using Google
Sign up using Facebook
Sign up using Email and Password
Post as a guest
Required, but never shown
Sign up or log in
StackExchange.ready(function ()
StackExchange.helpers.onClickDraftSave('#login-link');
);
Sign up using Google
Sign up using Facebook
Sign up using Email and Password
Sign up using Google
Sign up using Facebook
Sign up using Email and Password
Post as a guest
Required, but never shown
Required, but never shown
Required, but never shown
Required, but never shown
Required, but never shown
Required, but never shown
Required, but never shown
Required, but never shown
Required, but never shown
1
If you are afraid to complain to your boss or to HR, leaving should work.
– Joe Strazzere
20 mins ago