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I have a hyper empathetic college that I do not get along with that sits accross from me. How do I improve the situation?
How to deal with a coworker that told you about the position and now feels he/she owns you?Working with others who do not have a work life balance?Dealing with a really nice, hardworking but not good at work colleagueShould I say to my manager that I don't trust her anymoreHow to deal with being the 'loud person'Is it appropriate to use email to ask a worker to stop backbiting?how do I deal with a talented, but difficult & overly-critical coworker?Dealing with a Coworker who always knows betterDealing with unproductive long term colleague?Work environment of favoritism, limited professional growth, and possible subtle subconscious age-discrimination at play?
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I have a collegue who is extremely empathetic, and can always tell exactly what im feeling, why im feeling it, and can predict what I may want him to do. He often takes various actions on my behalf or predicts what I am about to ask him, or comments on my mood and this bothers me quite a bit because it feels very invasive to have someone know so much about me without me consciously volunteering the information. In addition, this coworker is very social and often/constantly socializes with people around me but never with me, which makes me feel like im being excluded - I dont want to have think about work as a social environment, I am used to working in a professional environment where work is about work and people do not socialize. I wish he would either not socialize with coworkers, or include me in the conversation when he does. Preferable the former.
I usually try to be accepting of his differences, but if im in a bad mood I get very angry at him doing this because it bothers me, and he can tell. Im pretty sure he thinks I hate him or something - I do not, I just have a bad response to how he interacts with me when I am in a bad mood. How can I improve this situation with my coworker?
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I have a collegue who is extremely empathetic, and can always tell exactly what im feeling, why im feeling it, and can predict what I may want him to do. He often takes various actions on my behalf or predicts what I am about to ask him, or comments on my mood and this bothers me quite a bit because it feels very invasive to have someone know so much about me without me consciously volunteering the information. In addition, this coworker is very social and often/constantly socializes with people around me but never with me, which makes me feel like im being excluded - I dont want to have think about work as a social environment, I am used to working in a professional environment where work is about work and people do not socialize. I wish he would either not socialize with coworkers, or include me in the conversation when he does. Preferable the former.
I usually try to be accepting of his differences, but if im in a bad mood I get very angry at him doing this because it bothers me, and he can tell. Im pretty sure he thinks I hate him or something - I do not, I just have a bad response to how he interacts with me when I am in a bad mood. How can I improve this situation with my coworker?
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I have a collegue who is extremely empathetic, and can always tell exactly what im feeling, why im feeling it, and can predict what I may want him to do. He often takes various actions on my behalf or predicts what I am about to ask him, or comments on my mood and this bothers me quite a bit because it feels very invasive to have someone know so much about me without me consciously volunteering the information. In addition, this coworker is very social and often/constantly socializes with people around me but never with me, which makes me feel like im being excluded - I dont want to have think about work as a social environment, I am used to working in a professional environment where work is about work and people do not socialize. I wish he would either not socialize with coworkers, or include me in the conversation when he does. Preferable the former.
I usually try to be accepting of his differences, but if im in a bad mood I get very angry at him doing this because it bothers me, and he can tell. Im pretty sure he thinks I hate him or something - I do not, I just have a bad response to how he interacts with me when I am in a bad mood. How can I improve this situation with my coworker?
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I have a collegue who is extremely empathetic, and can always tell exactly what im feeling, why im feeling it, and can predict what I may want him to do. He often takes various actions on my behalf or predicts what I am about to ask him, or comments on my mood and this bothers me quite a bit because it feels very invasive to have someone know so much about me without me consciously volunteering the information. In addition, this coworker is very social and often/constantly socializes with people around me but never with me, which makes me feel like im being excluded - I dont want to have think about work as a social environment, I am used to working in a professional environment where work is about work and people do not socialize. I wish he would either not socialize with coworkers, or include me in the conversation when he does. Preferable the former.
I usually try to be accepting of his differences, but if im in a bad mood I get very angry at him doing this because it bothers me, and he can tell. Im pretty sure he thinks I hate him or something - I do not, I just have a bad response to how he interacts with me when I am in a bad mood. How can I improve this situation with my coworker?
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