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What should I do about a coworker that is slacking off and in turn, creating more work and stress for myself?
Is it okay for my family to intervene when my boss treats me unfairly in the first few days of work?Management doesn't trust me because of things that happened before I came onMy boss has made it very difficult to do my job, what can i do?I said something terrible at the workplace, again. Am I gone?Supervisor forgets that I'm now part time and is assigning me too much workI showed some copyrighted code online and got busted for it. Now what should I do?Project Coordinator Doesn't Take ResponsibilityShould I be talking to HR about my struggles with stress and depression at my workplace?How to handle a colleague that can't handle stress and makes poor decisions but can work hardHow to deal with an overworked boss?
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I'm in dire need of someone else's perspective as I don't have any family members or many friends with corporate jobs. I ask that someone please read through this and help me figure out what to do.
I began working at a company straight out of college, with my last job being at Subway (yes, the sandwich shop). Now, I work as a Systems Engineer within a group of people that are very close knit; they have been working together for 10 years or more. This group includes somebody who was my former manager but decided to take on a different role this year; however, she is still very much involved in the projects. When I first started, this former manager (we'll call her Kelly), never communicated with me about anything and I basically felt like the odd one out, while the rest of the team was like an 'Old Girls Club'. In addition, they all work remotely, all across the country and do not have to be in the office. Although communication with Kelly and I had gotten better over time, I am still not comfortable with going to her for most things.
There was one instance, about 5 months into the job that I experienced an extremely frustrating situation where I was stuck working with one of the members of the Old Girls Club (lets call her, Sharon), who was always getting 'pulled into other things' while we both had a task scheduled to work on (and I was still learning the system at the time, so the help was needed). At one point during the week, I brought up to Sharon that she was getting pulled out a lot this week when we had a lot to do, and she said to me, "Yes, but I know you won't say anything because you need me!". Long story short, I told Kelly about this and she asked me if she could bring it up to Sharon, and asked me if she should keep my name out of it or not. I told her that it didn't matter. Fast-forward a few weeks, basically she told me she didn't say anything to Sharon yet because she felt that Sharon said what she said, out of 'stress'. At this point, I was so stressed with my own job and other tasks on hand that I didn't give a shit about that situation anymore.
Fast-forward almost a year later (today), I again had to work with someone that has worked for this company and with this group of people for over a decade, on a task that included going out to a customer site and conducting system acceptance testing. While I was conducting this class last week, he barely took ANY NOTES on what issues were arising, so I had to take up the slack. By the end of it, I had over 90 items while he had only written down 4 things in 2 days (basically was a vacation for him). This week, we had to run through the issues and fix them. This coworker (Bobby), didn't do SHIT this week either. I got so frustrated by the end of today. I didn't feel like I could go to Kelly because she has worked with this guy for so long and I didn't want another Sharon situation where nothing happens. I decided to go to a manager that isn't on my team for advice on what to do in this situation, which may have been a dumb thing to do on my part but was instinctive because I don't trust my managers to do anything. This other manager does not know the backstory like you do, although I want to tell him BADLY. I actually began tearing up because I've been so stressed and in a toxic environment and couldn't bare to just let it all out to him.
I don't know what to do right now. I am trying to find another job but not getting call-backs. Can someone please provide insight to me or any kind of answer that will help guide me through this?
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I'm in dire need of someone else's perspective as I don't have any family members or many friends with corporate jobs. I ask that someone please read through this and help me figure out what to do.
I began working at a company straight out of college, with my last job being at Subway (yes, the sandwich shop). Now, I work as a Systems Engineer within a group of people that are very close knit; they have been working together for 10 years or more. This group includes somebody who was my former manager but decided to take on a different role this year; however, she is still very much involved in the projects. When I first started, this former manager (we'll call her Kelly), never communicated with me about anything and I basically felt like the odd one out, while the rest of the team was like an 'Old Girls Club'. In addition, they all work remotely, all across the country and do not have to be in the office. Although communication with Kelly and I had gotten better over time, I am still not comfortable with going to her for most things.
There was one instance, about 5 months into the job that I experienced an extremely frustrating situation where I was stuck working with one of the members of the Old Girls Club (lets call her, Sharon), who was always getting 'pulled into other things' while we both had a task scheduled to work on (and I was still learning the system at the time, so the help was needed). At one point during the week, I brought up to Sharon that she was getting pulled out a lot this week when we had a lot to do, and she said to me, "Yes, but I know you won't say anything because you need me!". Long story short, I told Kelly about this and she asked me if she could bring it up to Sharon, and asked me if she should keep my name out of it or not. I told her that it didn't matter. Fast-forward a few weeks, basically she told me she didn't say anything to Sharon yet because she felt that Sharon said what she said, out of 'stress'. At this point, I was so stressed with my own job and other tasks on hand that I didn't give a shit about that situation anymore.
Fast-forward almost a year later (today), I again had to work with someone that has worked for this company and with this group of people for over a decade, on a task that included going out to a customer site and conducting system acceptance testing. While I was conducting this class last week, he barely took ANY NOTES on what issues were arising, so I had to take up the slack. By the end of it, I had over 90 items while he had only written down 4 things in 2 days (basically was a vacation for him). This week, we had to run through the issues and fix them. This coworker (Bobby), didn't do SHIT this week either. I got so frustrated by the end of today. I didn't feel like I could go to Kelly because she has worked with this guy for so long and I didn't want another Sharon situation where nothing happens. I decided to go to a manager that isn't on my team for advice on what to do in this situation, which may have been a dumb thing to do on my part but was instinctive because I don't trust my managers to do anything. This other manager does not know the backstory like you do, although I want to tell him BADLY. I actually began tearing up because I've been so stressed and in a toxic environment and couldn't bare to just let it all out to him.
I don't know what to do right now. I am trying to find another job but not getting call-backs. Can someone please provide insight to me or any kind of answer that will help guide me through this?
employer-relations stress
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add a comment |
I'm in dire need of someone else's perspective as I don't have any family members or many friends with corporate jobs. I ask that someone please read through this and help me figure out what to do.
I began working at a company straight out of college, with my last job being at Subway (yes, the sandwich shop). Now, I work as a Systems Engineer within a group of people that are very close knit; they have been working together for 10 years or more. This group includes somebody who was my former manager but decided to take on a different role this year; however, she is still very much involved in the projects. When I first started, this former manager (we'll call her Kelly), never communicated with me about anything and I basically felt like the odd one out, while the rest of the team was like an 'Old Girls Club'. In addition, they all work remotely, all across the country and do not have to be in the office. Although communication with Kelly and I had gotten better over time, I am still not comfortable with going to her for most things.
There was one instance, about 5 months into the job that I experienced an extremely frustrating situation where I was stuck working with one of the members of the Old Girls Club (lets call her, Sharon), who was always getting 'pulled into other things' while we both had a task scheduled to work on (and I was still learning the system at the time, so the help was needed). At one point during the week, I brought up to Sharon that she was getting pulled out a lot this week when we had a lot to do, and she said to me, "Yes, but I know you won't say anything because you need me!". Long story short, I told Kelly about this and she asked me if she could bring it up to Sharon, and asked me if she should keep my name out of it or not. I told her that it didn't matter. Fast-forward a few weeks, basically she told me she didn't say anything to Sharon yet because she felt that Sharon said what she said, out of 'stress'. At this point, I was so stressed with my own job and other tasks on hand that I didn't give a shit about that situation anymore.
Fast-forward almost a year later (today), I again had to work with someone that has worked for this company and with this group of people for over a decade, on a task that included going out to a customer site and conducting system acceptance testing. While I was conducting this class last week, he barely took ANY NOTES on what issues were arising, so I had to take up the slack. By the end of it, I had over 90 items while he had only written down 4 things in 2 days (basically was a vacation for him). This week, we had to run through the issues and fix them. This coworker (Bobby), didn't do SHIT this week either. I got so frustrated by the end of today. I didn't feel like I could go to Kelly because she has worked with this guy for so long and I didn't want another Sharon situation where nothing happens. I decided to go to a manager that isn't on my team for advice on what to do in this situation, which may have been a dumb thing to do on my part but was instinctive because I don't trust my managers to do anything. This other manager does not know the backstory like you do, although I want to tell him BADLY. I actually began tearing up because I've been so stressed and in a toxic environment and couldn't bare to just let it all out to him.
I don't know what to do right now. I am trying to find another job but not getting call-backs. Can someone please provide insight to me or any kind of answer that will help guide me through this?
employer-relations stress
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I'm in dire need of someone else's perspective as I don't have any family members or many friends with corporate jobs. I ask that someone please read through this and help me figure out what to do.
I began working at a company straight out of college, with my last job being at Subway (yes, the sandwich shop). Now, I work as a Systems Engineer within a group of people that are very close knit; they have been working together for 10 years or more. This group includes somebody who was my former manager but decided to take on a different role this year; however, she is still very much involved in the projects. When I first started, this former manager (we'll call her Kelly), never communicated with me about anything and I basically felt like the odd one out, while the rest of the team was like an 'Old Girls Club'. In addition, they all work remotely, all across the country and do not have to be in the office. Although communication with Kelly and I had gotten better over time, I am still not comfortable with going to her for most things.
There was one instance, about 5 months into the job that I experienced an extremely frustrating situation where I was stuck working with one of the members of the Old Girls Club (lets call her, Sharon), who was always getting 'pulled into other things' while we both had a task scheduled to work on (and I was still learning the system at the time, so the help was needed). At one point during the week, I brought up to Sharon that she was getting pulled out a lot this week when we had a lot to do, and she said to me, "Yes, but I know you won't say anything because you need me!". Long story short, I told Kelly about this and she asked me if she could bring it up to Sharon, and asked me if she should keep my name out of it or not. I told her that it didn't matter. Fast-forward a few weeks, basically she told me she didn't say anything to Sharon yet because she felt that Sharon said what she said, out of 'stress'. At this point, I was so stressed with my own job and other tasks on hand that I didn't give a shit about that situation anymore.
Fast-forward almost a year later (today), I again had to work with someone that has worked for this company and with this group of people for over a decade, on a task that included going out to a customer site and conducting system acceptance testing. While I was conducting this class last week, he barely took ANY NOTES on what issues were arising, so I had to take up the slack. By the end of it, I had over 90 items while he had only written down 4 things in 2 days (basically was a vacation for him). This week, we had to run through the issues and fix them. This coworker (Bobby), didn't do SHIT this week either. I got so frustrated by the end of today. I didn't feel like I could go to Kelly because she has worked with this guy for so long and I didn't want another Sharon situation where nothing happens. I decided to go to a manager that isn't on my team for advice on what to do in this situation, which may have been a dumb thing to do on my part but was instinctive because I don't trust my managers to do anything. This other manager does not know the backstory like you do, although I want to tell him BADLY. I actually began tearing up because I've been so stressed and in a toxic environment and couldn't bare to just let it all out to him.
I don't know what to do right now. I am trying to find another job but not getting call-backs. Can someone please provide insight to me or any kind of answer that will help guide me through this?
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