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How to handle self harm scars on the arm in work environment?
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My girlfriend is graduating from college right now and starting her professional career in a medium sized, rather traditional company in Germany (~12k employees world wide). While being a teenager she self harmed and has pretty obvious scars on her left arm. Also the reason for it, the psychological issues, is gone the scars remain as a mark of that time. Now as the summer is coming she is also thinking about wearing short-sleeved shirts for work, what she avoided until now. She is insecure regarding the reaction of colleagues, heads, etc. and concerned about being seen as the unstable and mentally ill teenager she was years ago instead of the person she is now.
Do you have any advice or experiences whether hiding those scars is better in prospect of her professional career, so not offering the past hard times? Or are companies managing to deal past mental issues professionally in your opinion?
Thanks a lot.
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My girlfriend is graduating from college right now and starting her professional career in a medium sized, rather traditional company in Germany (~12k employees world wide). While being a teenager she self harmed and has pretty obvious scars on her left arm. Also the reason for it, the psychological issues, is gone the scars remain as a mark of that time. Now as the summer is coming she is also thinking about wearing short-sleeved shirts for work, what she avoided until now. She is insecure regarding the reaction of colleagues, heads, etc. and concerned about being seen as the unstable and mentally ill teenager she was years ago instead of the person she is now.
Do you have any advice or experiences whether hiding those scars is better in prospect of her professional career, so not offering the past hard times? Or are companies managing to deal past mental issues professionally in your opinion?
Thanks a lot.
germany dress-code mental-health
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Would she be comfortable answering if someone asked about visible scars?
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My girlfriend is graduating from college right now and starting her professional career in a medium sized, rather traditional company in Germany (~12k employees world wide). While being a teenager she self harmed and has pretty obvious scars on her left arm. Also the reason for it, the psychological issues, is gone the scars remain as a mark of that time. Now as the summer is coming she is also thinking about wearing short-sleeved shirts for work, what she avoided until now. She is insecure regarding the reaction of colleagues, heads, etc. and concerned about being seen as the unstable and mentally ill teenager she was years ago instead of the person she is now.
Do you have any advice or experiences whether hiding those scars is better in prospect of her professional career, so not offering the past hard times? Or are companies managing to deal past mental issues professionally in your opinion?
Thanks a lot.
germany dress-code mental-health
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My girlfriend is graduating from college right now and starting her professional career in a medium sized, rather traditional company in Germany (~12k employees world wide). While being a teenager she self harmed and has pretty obvious scars on her left arm. Also the reason for it, the psychological issues, is gone the scars remain as a mark of that time. Now as the summer is coming she is also thinking about wearing short-sleeved shirts for work, what she avoided until now. She is insecure regarding the reaction of colleagues, heads, etc. and concerned about being seen as the unstable and mentally ill teenager she was years ago instead of the person she is now.
Do you have any advice or experiences whether hiding those scars is better in prospect of her professional career, so not offering the past hard times? Or are companies managing to deal past mental issues professionally in your opinion?
Thanks a lot.
germany dress-code mental-health
germany dress-code mental-health
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Would she be comfortable answering if someone asked about visible scars?
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Would she be comfortable answering if someone asked about visible scars?
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Would she be comfortable answering if someone asked about visible scars?
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I think Alison has a good answer for this, from a person who was interested in moving into management:
If they were fresh scars, indicating that it was ongoing, I think that would be on people’s minds, and their concern for you would probably get in the way of being able to see you in a management role. But they’re older scars, so I really wouldn’t worry about it too much. We all have scars from past behavior; yours just happen to be visible.
Given that they’re old, the thing that will have the most impact on people’s impression of you is how you operate now. If you come across as emotionally stable and good at what you do, and as a reasonably cheerful and pleasant person, I think your scars will quickly fade into the background in people’s minds. (And in a way, they come with the advantage of signaling to people, “I’m human and I’m probably not going to give you crap when you’re going through short-term difficulties of your own.”)
In other words, they are past and aren't who she is any more. If anyone is so rude to ask, a quick "Oh, that's long in the past - do you have those TPS reports ready?" type answer can help. It's past, it's boring, and let's change the subject to work, because that's why we're here.
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This depends a lot on the actual scars. A scar on the arm can easily be from an accident. Is there something about it that would make people believe they were self inflicted? If yes then she must choose between wearing a t-shirt and keeping it a secret. If no then it's not really an issue and if someone happens to point them out, have a reply ready like "these are from an incident a long time ago which I don't feel like talking about".
Also would make up be able to hide the scars?
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I think Alison has a good answer for this, from a person who was interested in moving into management:
If they were fresh scars, indicating that it was ongoing, I think that would be on people’s minds, and their concern for you would probably get in the way of being able to see you in a management role. But they’re older scars, so I really wouldn’t worry about it too much. We all have scars from past behavior; yours just happen to be visible.
Given that they’re old, the thing that will have the most impact on people’s impression of you is how you operate now. If you come across as emotionally stable and good at what you do, and as a reasonably cheerful and pleasant person, I think your scars will quickly fade into the background in people’s minds. (And in a way, they come with the advantage of signaling to people, “I’m human and I’m probably not going to give you crap when you’re going through short-term difficulties of your own.”)
In other words, they are past and aren't who she is any more. If anyone is so rude to ask, a quick "Oh, that's long in the past - do you have those TPS reports ready?" type answer can help. It's past, it's boring, and let's change the subject to work, because that's why we're here.
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I think Alison has a good answer for this, from a person who was interested in moving into management:
If they were fresh scars, indicating that it was ongoing, I think that would be on people’s minds, and their concern for you would probably get in the way of being able to see you in a management role. But they’re older scars, so I really wouldn’t worry about it too much. We all have scars from past behavior; yours just happen to be visible.
Given that they’re old, the thing that will have the most impact on people’s impression of you is how you operate now. If you come across as emotionally stable and good at what you do, and as a reasonably cheerful and pleasant person, I think your scars will quickly fade into the background in people’s minds. (And in a way, they come with the advantage of signaling to people, “I’m human and I’m probably not going to give you crap when you’re going through short-term difficulties of your own.”)
In other words, they are past and aren't who she is any more. If anyone is so rude to ask, a quick "Oh, that's long in the past - do you have those TPS reports ready?" type answer can help. It's past, it's boring, and let's change the subject to work, because that's why we're here.
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I think Alison has a good answer for this, from a person who was interested in moving into management:
If they were fresh scars, indicating that it was ongoing, I think that would be on people’s minds, and their concern for you would probably get in the way of being able to see you in a management role. But they’re older scars, so I really wouldn’t worry about it too much. We all have scars from past behavior; yours just happen to be visible.
Given that they’re old, the thing that will have the most impact on people’s impression of you is how you operate now. If you come across as emotionally stable and good at what you do, and as a reasonably cheerful and pleasant person, I think your scars will quickly fade into the background in people’s minds. (And in a way, they come with the advantage of signaling to people, “I’m human and I’m probably not going to give you crap when you’re going through short-term difficulties of your own.”)
In other words, they are past and aren't who she is any more. If anyone is so rude to ask, a quick "Oh, that's long in the past - do you have those TPS reports ready?" type answer can help. It's past, it's boring, and let's change the subject to work, because that's why we're here.
answered 35 mins ago
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I think Alison has a good answer for this, from a person who was interested in moving into management:
If they were fresh scars, indicating that it was ongoing, I think that would be on people’s minds, and their concern for you would probably get in the way of being able to see you in a management role. But they’re older scars, so I really wouldn’t worry about it too much. We all have scars from past behavior; yours just happen to be visible.
Given that they’re old, the thing that will have the most impact on people’s impression of you is how you operate now. If you come across as emotionally stable and good at what you do, and as a reasonably cheerful and pleasant person, I think your scars will quickly fade into the background in people’s minds. (And in a way, they come with the advantage of signaling to people, “I’m human and I’m probably not going to give you crap when you’re going through short-term difficulties of your own.”)
In other words, they are past and aren't who she is any more. If anyone is so rude to ask, a quick "Oh, that's long in the past - do you have those TPS reports ready?" type answer can help. It's past, it's boring, and let's change the subject to work, because that's why we're here.
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This depends a lot on the actual scars. A scar on the arm can easily be from an accident. Is there something about it that would make people believe they were self inflicted? If yes then she must choose between wearing a t-shirt and keeping it a secret. If no then it's not really an issue and if someone happens to point them out, have a reply ready like "these are from an incident a long time ago which I don't feel like talking about".
Also would make up be able to hide the scars?
answered 10 mins ago
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This depends a lot on the actual scars. A scar on the arm can easily be from an accident. Is there something about it that would make people believe they were self inflicted? If yes then she must choose between wearing a t-shirt and keeping it a secret. If no then it's not really an issue and if someone happens to point them out, have a reply ready like "these are from an incident a long time ago which I don't feel like talking about".
Also would make up be able to hide the scars?
answered 10 mins ago
thisisanamethisisaname
5081613
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This depends a lot on the actual scars. A scar on the arm can easily be from an accident. Is there something about it that would make people believe they were self inflicted? If yes then she must choose between wearing a t-shirt and keeping it a secret. If no then it's not really an issue and if someone happens to point them out, have a reply ready like "these are from an incident a long time ago which I don't feel like talking about".
Also would make up be able to hide the scars?
answered 10 mins ago
thisisanamethisisaname
5081613
This depends a lot on the actual scars. A scar on the arm can easily be from an accident. Is there something about it that would make people believe they were self inflicted? If yes then she must choose between wearing a t-shirt and keeping it a secret. If no then it's not really an issue and if someone happens to point them out, have a reply ready like "these are from an incident a long time ago which I don't feel like talking about".
Also would make up be able to hide the scars?
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