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How to respond to someone wanting to be informed of casual workplace chats?
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I am an independent contractor working remotely for Company A. I have worked on and off with this company (or a version of it) since the mid 90's either remotely, at their HQ, and also on occasion at their customer's sites as a part of Company A's team. As a result I personally know and have worked with many of the main people in the group I contract to. In recent years I have been working on projects with Sam, who is sort of PM/Team lead, but I see him more as a colleague than anything else as we both work on separate aspects of the same projects and he doesn't direct or architect my work.
Last week I had need of some basic information about some technology that I haven't directly worked with. So I jumped on the company IM and called up some SMEs that I know in order to get some general information on said technology. (The sort of thing that if I was at HQ I would go around to their cube for a casual chat about it.) Later I had a phone conference with Sam and during it I used my new found knowledge to point out where we really need direct input from an SME - but did not mention my previous IMs.
Today Sam went and saw one of the same SME's that I'd IM'ed and discussed the project with them (and who apparently related that I had previously chatted with him). Then this afternoon Sam sent me an email about that discussion which ended with this statement:
As a reminder, if you are contacting any team member regarding the
projects you are working on with me, I would like to be copied. Else,
you are making me look bad!
This was a bit of a shock to me. If I had written an explicit email to an SME asking about specific requirements, then I would have cc'ed Sam. However I considered this IM to be similar to a casual chat around the water cooler.
I am considering a response along the lines of
Sam it would never be my intention to make you look bad, but IMHO in
this case I think you are overreacting. All I was doing was chatting
via IM with the SMEs in order to get general ideas about how this
technology operates and how we need to apply it.
However I am not sure if this is getting to the crux of the matter that prompted Sam's comment, as Sam has previously exhibited desires to be in control of things he doesn't need to be in control of.
So does my proposed response seem reasonable, or is there something that I am totally missing?
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I am an independent contractor working remotely for Company A. I have worked on and off with this company (or a version of it) since the mid 90's either remotely, at their HQ, and also on occasion at their customer's sites as a part of Company A's team. As a result I personally know and have worked with many of the main people in the group I contract to. In recent years I have been working on projects with Sam, who is sort of PM/Team lead, but I see him more as a colleague than anything else as we both work on separate aspects of the same projects and he doesn't direct or architect my work.
Last week I had need of some basic information about some technology that I haven't directly worked with. So I jumped on the company IM and called up some SMEs that I know in order to get some general information on said technology. (The sort of thing that if I was at HQ I would go around to their cube for a casual chat about it.) Later I had a phone conference with Sam and during it I used my new found knowledge to point out where we really need direct input from an SME - but did not mention my previous IMs.
Today Sam went and saw one of the same SME's that I'd IM'ed and discussed the project with them (and who apparently related that I had previously chatted with him). Then this afternoon Sam sent me an email about that discussion which ended with this statement:
As a reminder, if you are contacting any team member regarding the
projects you are working on with me, I would like to be copied. Else,
you are making me look bad!
This was a bit of a shock to me. If I had written an explicit email to an SME asking about specific requirements, then I would have cc'ed Sam. However I considered this IM to be similar to a casual chat around the water cooler.
I am considering a response along the lines of
Sam it would never be my intention to make you look bad, but IMHO in
this case I think you are overreacting. All I was doing was chatting
via IM with the SMEs in order to get general ideas about how this
technology operates and how we need to apply it.
However I am not sure if this is getting to the crux of the matter that prompted Sam's comment, as Sam has previously exhibited desires to be in control of things he doesn't need to be in control of.
So does my proposed response seem reasonable, or is there something that I am totally missing?
professionalism work-environment colleagues behavior
asked 9 mins ago
Peter MPeter M
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I am an independent contractor working remotely for Company A. I have worked on and off with this company (or a version of it) since the mid 90's either remotely, at their HQ, and also on occasion at their customer's sites as a part of Company A's team. As a result I personally know and have worked with many of the main people in the group I contract to. In recent years I have been working on projects with Sam, who is sort of PM/Team lead, but I see him more as a colleague than anything else as we both work on separate aspects of the same projects and he doesn't direct or architect my work.
Last week I had need of some basic information about some technology that I haven't directly worked with. So I jumped on the company IM and called up some SMEs that I know in order to get some general information on said technology. (The sort of thing that if I was at HQ I would go around to their cube for a casual chat about it.) Later I had a phone conference with Sam and during it I used my new found knowledge to point out where we really need direct input from an SME - but did not mention my previous IMs.
Today Sam went and saw one of the same SME's that I'd IM'ed and discussed the project with them (and who apparently related that I had previously chatted with him). Then this afternoon Sam sent me an email about that discussion which ended with this statement:
As a reminder, if you are contacting any team member regarding the
projects you are working on with me, I would like to be copied. Else,
you are making me look bad!
This was a bit of a shock to me. If I had written an explicit email to an SME asking about specific requirements, then I would have cc'ed Sam. However I considered this IM to be similar to a casual chat around the water cooler.
I am considering a response along the lines of
Sam it would never be my intention to make you look bad, but IMHO in
this case I think you are overreacting. All I was doing was chatting
via IM with the SMEs in order to get general ideas about how this
technology operates and how we need to apply it.
However I am not sure if this is getting to the crux of the matter that prompted Sam's comment, as Sam has previously exhibited desires to be in control of things he doesn't need to be in control of.
So does my proposed response seem reasonable, or is there something that I am totally missing?
professionalism work-environment colleagues behavior
asked 9 mins ago
Peter MPeter M
4,6301 gold badge16 silver badges25 bronze badges
I am an independent contractor working remotely for Company A. I have worked on and off with this company (or a version of it) since the mid 90's either remotely, at their HQ, and also on occasion at their customer's sites as a part of Company A's team. As a result I personally know and have worked with many of the main people in the group I contract to. In recent years I have been working on projects with Sam, who is sort of PM/Team lead, but I see him more as a colleague than anything else as we both work on separate aspects of the same projects and he doesn't direct or architect my work.
Last week I had need of some basic information about some technology that I haven't directly worked with. So I jumped on the company IM and called up some SMEs that I know in order to get some general information on said technology. (The sort of thing that if I was at HQ I would go around to their cube for a casual chat about it.) Later I had a phone conference with Sam and during it I used my new found knowledge to point out where we really need direct input from an SME - but did not mention my previous IMs.
Today Sam went and saw one of the same SME's that I'd IM'ed and discussed the project with them (and who apparently related that I had previously chatted with him). Then this afternoon Sam sent me an email about that discussion which ended with this statement:
As a reminder, if you are contacting any team member regarding the
projects you are working on with me, I would like to be copied. Else,
you are making me look bad!
This was a bit of a shock to me. If I had written an explicit email to an SME asking about specific requirements, then I would have cc'ed Sam. However I considered this IM to be similar to a casual chat around the water cooler.
I am considering a response along the lines of
Sam it would never be my intention to make you look bad, but IMHO in
this case I think you are overreacting. All I was doing was chatting
via IM with the SMEs in order to get general ideas about how this
technology operates and how we need to apply it.
However I am not sure if this is getting to the crux of the matter that prompted Sam's comment, as Sam has previously exhibited desires to be in control of things he doesn't need to be in control of.
So does my proposed response seem reasonable, or is there something that I am totally missing?
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