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How should I tactfully let my coworker know I'm uncomfortable being alone with her?
How should I tactfully let my coworker know I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room?How to deal with a bad coworkerShould I let my boss know that I will have a series of doctor's appointments or is it sufficient to notify her in advance of each one?Dealing with noisy neighbors (who don't work for our company)?Managing conflict with coworkers to relieve a hostile work environmentConvincing an officemate to keep the office door closedHow to deal with a coworker that shuts me down?Should A Manager discuss hiring plans with his/her team?How to deal with excluding behaviour?How and when to let people know other person who is sharing credit with me has not done anythingHow should I tactfully let my coworker know I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room?
I often have to work in our server room with a colleague, doing things like racking new systems, replacing drives, diagnosing issues, etc. It's a super loud room with around 50 units going at once, so the door is soundproofed. We're supposed to keep the door closed when we're in the room to keep the noise down, but it's making me uncomfortable to be alone with her.
It's not that she's falsely accused me of doing anything creepy yet, but it's just that if someone wanted to falsely accuse me of attacking them, this would be the perfect setting to do so. There are no windows in the room and as far as I can tell from the damping, it'd be really hard to dispute she was yelling for help.
So far I've tried propping the door open without saying anything, which she's just shut and said "you know we're supposed to keep this closed right?", I've tried making up an excuse that it's too warm with the door closed, I've tried saying that I'm just more comfortable with the door open, but she keeps closing it.
How should I try to politely tell her I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room, in case of an accusation of assault?
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Gregory CurrieGregory Currie
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I often have to work in our server room with a colleague, doing things like racking new systems, replacing drives, diagnosing issues, etc. It's a super loud room with around 50 units going at once, so the door is soundproofed. We're supposed to keep the door closed when we're in the room to keep the noise down, but it's making me uncomfortable to be alone with her.
It's not that she's falsely accused me of doing anything creepy yet, but it's just that if someone wanted to falsely accuse me of attacking them, this would be the perfect setting to do so. There are no windows in the room and as far as I can tell from the damping, it'd be really hard to dispute she was yelling for help.
So far I've tried propping the door open without saying anything, which she's just shut and said "you know we're supposed to keep this closed right?", I've tried making up an excuse that it's too warm with the door closed, I've tried saying that I'm just more comfortable with the door open, but she keeps closing it.
How should I try to politely tell her I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room, in case of an accusation of assault?
work-environment colleagues safety
asked 1 hour ago
Gregory CurrieGregory Currie
4,15882237
2
What is this? Are you reposting the previous question with a different angle? :)
– Sourav Ghosh
1 hour ago
3
Possible duplicate of How should I tactfully let my coworker know I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room?
– virolino
1 hour ago
1
"Possible" duplicate!?
– Kyralessa
48 mins ago
2
Poorly paraphrased repeat of : workplace.stackexchange.com/q/132728/75821. Should be put on hold as unclear like the other ...
– Solar Mike
38 mins ago
add a comment |
I often have to work in our server room with a colleague, doing things like racking new systems, replacing drives, diagnosing issues, etc. It's a super loud room with around 50 units going at once, so the door is soundproofed. We're supposed to keep the door closed when we're in the room to keep the noise down, but it's making me uncomfortable to be alone with her.
It's not that she's falsely accused me of doing anything creepy yet, but it's just that if someone wanted to falsely accuse me of attacking them, this would be the perfect setting to do so. There are no windows in the room and as far as I can tell from the damping, it'd be really hard to dispute she was yelling for help.
So far I've tried propping the door open without saying anything, which she's just shut and said "you know we're supposed to keep this closed right?", I've tried making up an excuse that it's too warm with the door closed, I've tried saying that I'm just more comfortable with the door open, but she keeps closing it.
How should I try to politely tell her I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room, in case of an accusation of assault?
work-environment colleagues safety
asked 1 hour ago
Gregory CurrieGregory Currie
4,15882237
I often have to work in our server room with a colleague, doing things like racking new systems, replacing drives, diagnosing issues, etc. It's a super loud room with around 50 units going at once, so the door is soundproofed. We're supposed to keep the door closed when we're in the room to keep the noise down, but it's making me uncomfortable to be alone with her.
It's not that she's falsely accused me of doing anything creepy yet, but it's just that if someone wanted to falsely accuse me of attacking them, this would be the perfect setting to do so. There are no windows in the room and as far as I can tell from the damping, it'd be really hard to dispute she was yelling for help.
So far I've tried propping the door open without saying anything, which she's just shut and said "you know we're supposed to keep this closed right?", I've tried making up an excuse that it's too warm with the door closed, I've tried saying that I'm just more comfortable with the door open, but she keeps closing it.
How should I try to politely tell her I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room, in case of an accusation of assault?
work-environment colleagues safety
work-environment colleagues safety
asked 1 hour ago
Gregory CurrieGregory Currie
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asked 1 hour ago
Gregory CurrieGregory Currie
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Gregory Currie
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Gregory CurrieGregory Currie
4,15882237
asked 1 hour ago
Gregory CurrieGregory Currie
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asked 1 hour ago
Gregory CurrieGregory Currie
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4,15882237
2
What is this? Are you reposting the previous question with a different angle? :)
– Sourav Ghosh
1 hour ago
3
Possible duplicate of How should I tactfully let my coworker know I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room?
– virolino
1 hour ago
1
"Possible" duplicate!?
– Kyralessa
48 mins ago
2
Poorly paraphrased repeat of : workplace.stackexchange.com/q/132728/75821. Should be put on hold as unclear like the other ...
– Solar Mike
38 mins ago
add a comment |
2
What is this? Are you reposting the previous question with a different angle? :)
– Sourav Ghosh
1 hour ago
3
Possible duplicate of How should I tactfully let my coworker know I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room?
– virolino
1 hour ago
1
"Possible" duplicate!?
– Kyralessa
48 mins ago
2
Poorly paraphrased repeat of : workplace.stackexchange.com/q/132728/75821. Should be put on hold as unclear like the other ...
– Solar Mike
38 mins ago
2
2
What is this? Are you reposting the previous question with a different angle? :)
– Sourav Ghosh
1 hour ago
What is this? Are you reposting the previous question with a different angle? :)
– Sourav Ghosh
1 hour ago
3
3
Possible duplicate of How should I tactfully let my coworker know I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room?
– virolino
1 hour ago
Possible duplicate of How should I tactfully let my coworker know I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room?
– virolino
1 hour ago
1
1
"Possible" duplicate!?
– Kyralessa
48 mins ago
"Possible" duplicate!?
– Kyralessa
48 mins ago
2
2
Poorly paraphrased repeat of : workplace.stackexchange.com/q/132728/75821. Should be put on hold as unclear like the other ...
– Solar Mike
38 mins ago
Poorly paraphrased repeat of : workplace.stackexchange.com/q/132728/75821. Should be put on hold as unclear like the other ...
– Solar Mike
38 mins ago
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How should I try to politely tell her I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room, in case of an accusation of assault?
You don't.
The way to avoid such accusations is to not be a creep.
It's not that she's accused me of doing anything creepy yet, [...]
(I realize you merely changed another question so don't take this personally.) That yet is a sign that you may have been a creep in the past. Just don't, and you'll be fine.
If you aren't a creep in any way, not having been called out as a creep by a female coworker yet is the least of your concerns.
answered 51 mins ago
Denis de BernardyDenis de Bernardy
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"You" may have been a creep? Where did that come from?
– Sourav Ghosh
43 mins ago
The "yet" is a sign that I expect the preceding action to occur. I will clarify question.
– Gregory Currie
38 mins ago
@SouravGhosh: From the yet. If you aren't a creep in any way, not having been called out as a creep by a female coworker yet is the least of your concerns.
– Denis de Bernardy
36 mins ago
1
I think all I have to say here is QED
– Gregory Currie
34 mins ago
@DenisdeBernardy Given there there would be no proof, other than words against each other, I don't see how "(not) being called creep in past" helps me. All the things happens for the first time, sometimes.
– Sourav Ghosh
27 mins ago
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How should I try to politely tell her I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room, in case of an accusation of assault?
You don't.
The way to avoid such accusations is to not be a creep.
It's not that she's accused me of doing anything creepy yet, [...]
(I realize you merely changed another question so don't take this personally.) That yet is a sign that you may have been a creep in the past. Just don't, and you'll be fine.
If you aren't a creep in any way, not having been called out as a creep by a female coworker yet is the least of your concerns.
answered 51 mins ago
Denis de BernardyDenis de Bernardy
2,439924
"You" may have been a creep? Where did that come from?
– Sourav Ghosh
43 mins ago
The "yet" is a sign that I expect the preceding action to occur. I will clarify question.
– Gregory Currie
38 mins ago
@SouravGhosh: From the yet. If you aren't a creep in any way, not having been called out as a creep by a female coworker yet is the least of your concerns.
– Denis de Bernardy
36 mins ago
1
I think all I have to say here is QED
– Gregory Currie
34 mins ago
@DenisdeBernardy Given there there would be no proof, other than words against each other, I don't see how "(not) being called creep in past" helps me. All the things happens for the first time, sometimes.
– Sourav Ghosh
27 mins ago
|
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How should I try to politely tell her I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room, in case of an accusation of assault?
You don't.
The way to avoid such accusations is to not be a creep.
It's not that she's accused me of doing anything creepy yet, [...]
(I realize you merely changed another question so don't take this personally.) That yet is a sign that you may have been a creep in the past. Just don't, and you'll be fine.
If you aren't a creep in any way, not having been called out as a creep by a female coworker yet is the least of your concerns.
answered 51 mins ago
Denis de BernardyDenis de Bernardy
2,439924
"You" may have been a creep? Where did that come from?
– Sourav Ghosh
43 mins ago
The "yet" is a sign that I expect the preceding action to occur. I will clarify question.
– Gregory Currie
38 mins ago
@SouravGhosh: From the yet. If you aren't a creep in any way, not having been called out as a creep by a female coworker yet is the least of your concerns.
– Denis de Bernardy
36 mins ago
1
I think all I have to say here is QED
– Gregory Currie
34 mins ago
@DenisdeBernardy Given there there would be no proof, other than words against each other, I don't see how "(not) being called creep in past" helps me. All the things happens for the first time, sometimes.
– Sourav Ghosh
27 mins ago
|
show 1 more comment
How should I try to politely tell her I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room, in case of an accusation of assault?
You don't.
The way to avoid such accusations is to not be a creep.
It's not that she's accused me of doing anything creepy yet, [...]
(I realize you merely changed another question so don't take this personally.) That yet is a sign that you may have been a creep in the past. Just don't, and you'll be fine.
If you aren't a creep in any way, not having been called out as a creep by a female coworker yet is the least of your concerns.
answered 51 mins ago
Denis de BernardyDenis de Bernardy
2,439924
How should I try to politely tell her I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room, in case of an accusation of assault?
You don't.
The way to avoid such accusations is to not be a creep.
It's not that she's accused me of doing anything creepy yet, [...]
(I realize you merely changed another question so don't take this personally.) That yet is a sign that you may have been a creep in the past. Just don't, and you'll be fine.
If you aren't a creep in any way, not having been called out as a creep by a female coworker yet is the least of your concerns.
answered 51 mins ago
Denis de BernardyDenis de Bernardy
2,439924
edited 33 mins ago
answered 51 mins ago
Denis de BernardyDenis de Bernardy
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answered 51 mins ago
Denis de BernardyDenis de Bernardy
2,439924
answered 51 mins ago
Denis de BernardyDenis de Bernardy
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2,439924
"You" may have been a creep? Where did that come from?
– Sourav Ghosh
43 mins ago
The "yet" is a sign that I expect the preceding action to occur. I will clarify question.
– Gregory Currie
38 mins ago
@SouravGhosh: From the yet. If you aren't a creep in any way, not having been called out as a creep by a female coworker yet is the least of your concerns.
– Denis de Bernardy
36 mins ago
1
I think all I have to say here is QED
– Gregory Currie
34 mins ago
@DenisdeBernardy Given there there would be no proof, other than words against each other, I don't see how "(not) being called creep in past" helps me. All the things happens for the first time, sometimes.
– Sourav Ghosh
27 mins ago
|
show 1 more comment
"You" may have been a creep? Where did that come from?
– Sourav Ghosh
43 mins ago
The "yet" is a sign that I expect the preceding action to occur. I will clarify question.
– Gregory Currie
38 mins ago
@SouravGhosh: From the yet. If you aren't a creep in any way, not having been called out as a creep by a female coworker yet is the least of your concerns.
– Denis de Bernardy
36 mins ago
1
I think all I have to say here is QED
– Gregory Currie
34 mins ago
@DenisdeBernardy Given there there would be no proof, other than words against each other, I don't see how "(not) being called creep in past" helps me. All the things happens for the first time, sometimes.
– Sourav Ghosh
27 mins ago
"You" may have been a creep? Where did that come from?
– Sourav Ghosh
43 mins ago
"You" may have been a creep? Where did that come from?
– Sourav Ghosh
43 mins ago
The "yet" is a sign that I expect the preceding action to occur. I will clarify question.
– Gregory Currie
38 mins ago
The "yet" is a sign that I expect the preceding action to occur. I will clarify question.
– Gregory Currie
38 mins ago
@SouravGhosh: From the yet. If you aren't a creep in any way, not having been called out as a creep by a female coworker yet is the least of your concerns.
– Denis de Bernardy
36 mins ago
@SouravGhosh: From the yet. If you aren't a creep in any way, not having been called out as a creep by a female coworker yet is the least of your concerns.
– Denis de Bernardy
36 mins ago
1
1
I think all I have to say here is QED
– Gregory Currie
34 mins ago
I think all I have to say here is QED
– Gregory Currie
34 mins ago
@DenisdeBernardy Given there there would be no proof, other than words against each other, I don't see how "(not) being called creep in past" helps me. All the things happens for the first time, sometimes.
– Sourav Ghosh
27 mins ago
@DenisdeBernardy Given there there would be no proof, other than words against each other, I don't see how "(not) being called creep in past" helps me. All the things happens for the first time, sometimes.
– Sourav Ghosh
27 mins ago
|
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What is this? Are you reposting the previous question with a different angle? :)
– Sourav Ghosh
1 hour ago
3
Possible duplicate of How should I tactfully let my coworker know I'm uncomfortable being alone with someone else in a closed-off room?
– virolino
1 hour ago
1
"Possible" duplicate!?
– Kyralessa
48 mins ago
2
Poorly paraphrased repeat of : workplace.stackexchange.com/q/132728/75821. Should be put on hold as unclear like the other ...
– Solar Mike
38 mins ago