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Attending a conference where my ex-supervisor and his collaborator are present, should I attend?
How do you deal with trolling students?Is it unethical if I did not inform the current lab I am in that I am looking for another position?Citing a paper under review in 2 different conferencesShould you list acceptance of an abstract to a prestigious conference on CV when unable to attend due to personal reasons?As a postdoc, should I expect my PhD adviser to fund my conference travel to present my PhD work?How should a university non-academic employee's affiliation be like?Is it ok to mention my upcoming post during my conference presentation?Comparison between benefits of publishing a paper at a conference and a journalHow to prepare for questions about the part of the paper that you didn't write?How advantageous is it to have presented a poster at an international conference?Are proceedings of this conference really published by IEEE CS CPS?Couldn't attend IEEE Conference and unable to present my paper
I have been asked to attend a conference and present from my current employer since this conference is highly focused on my research point. In this conference, my ex-supervisor and his collaborator are going to be present and one will give a lecture. My current employer doesn't know about my story since they did not ask. I am afraid and confused on whether to avoid the places they are going to be in as they have tried to destroy me before and it was very harsh or face my fears and face them without speaking. I am also afraid that they would do badmouthing to my current employer.
What could be the best thing I can do, I am highly interested in to be in, but I am afraid of them and I don't know in case I refused attendance, what kind of accuses I can explain to my current employer ( the project I am working in is cooperation between different university, and each university is going to submit their students for this conference which focused only on my research field).
ethics conference
asked 4 hours ago
MonkiaMonkia
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I have been asked to attend a conference and present from my current employer since this conference is highly focused on my research point. In this conference, my ex-supervisor and his collaborator are going to be present and one will give a lecture. My current employer doesn't know about my story since they did not ask. I am afraid and confused on whether to avoid the places they are going to be in as they have tried to destroy me before and it was very harsh or face my fears and face them without speaking. I am also afraid that they would do badmouthing to my current employer.
What could be the best thing I can do, I am highly interested in to be in, but I am afraid of them and I don't know in case I refused attendance, what kind of accuses I can explain to my current employer ( the project I am working in is cooperation between different university, and each university is going to submit their students for this conference which focused only on my research field).
ethics conference
asked 4 hours ago
MonkiaMonkia
433310
2
I don't think we could possibly answer this for you.
– Azor Ahai
4 hours ago
I'm a bit confused on your timeline. In the past couple months, your current PI has been "very pissed off", you have considered nominating her for an award, you have been looking for a new job, and have been blacklisted because your current PI does not know your situation. Can you clarify?
– cag51
2 mins ago
add a comment |
I have been asked to attend a conference and present from my current employer since this conference is highly focused on my research point. In this conference, my ex-supervisor and his collaborator are going to be present and one will give a lecture. My current employer doesn't know about my story since they did not ask. I am afraid and confused on whether to avoid the places they are going to be in as they have tried to destroy me before and it was very harsh or face my fears and face them without speaking. I am also afraid that they would do badmouthing to my current employer.
What could be the best thing I can do, I am highly interested in to be in, but I am afraid of them and I don't know in case I refused attendance, what kind of accuses I can explain to my current employer ( the project I am working in is cooperation between different university, and each university is going to submit their students for this conference which focused only on my research field).
ethics conference
asked 4 hours ago
MonkiaMonkia
433310
I have been asked to attend a conference and present from my current employer since this conference is highly focused on my research point. In this conference, my ex-supervisor and his collaborator are going to be present and one will give a lecture. My current employer doesn't know about my story since they did not ask. I am afraid and confused on whether to avoid the places they are going to be in as they have tried to destroy me before and it was very harsh or face my fears and face them without speaking. I am also afraid that they would do badmouthing to my current employer.
What could be the best thing I can do, I am highly interested in to be in, but I am afraid of them and I don't know in case I refused attendance, what kind of accuses I can explain to my current employer ( the project I am working in is cooperation between different university, and each university is going to submit their students for this conference which focused only on my research field).
ethics conference
ethics conference
asked 4 hours ago
MonkiaMonkia
433310
asked 4 hours ago
MonkiaMonkia
433310
asked 4 hours ago
MonkiaMonkia
433310
asked 4 hours ago
MonkiaMonkia
433310
asked 4 hours ago
MonkiaMonkia
433310
433310
2
I don't think we could possibly answer this for you.
– Azor Ahai
4 hours ago
I'm a bit confused on your timeline. In the past couple months, your current PI has been "very pissed off", you have considered nominating her for an award, you have been looking for a new job, and have been blacklisted because your current PI does not know your situation. Can you clarify?
– cag51
2 mins ago
add a comment |
2
I don't think we could possibly answer this for you.
– Azor Ahai
4 hours ago
I'm a bit confused on your timeline. In the past couple months, your current PI has been "very pissed off", you have considered nominating her for an award, you have been looking for a new job, and have been blacklisted because your current PI does not know your situation. Can you clarify?
– cag51
2 mins ago
2
2
I don't think we could possibly answer this for you.
– Azor Ahai
4 hours ago
I don't think we could possibly answer this for you.
– Azor Ahai
4 hours ago
I'm a bit confused on your timeline. In the past couple months, your current PI has been "very pissed off", you have considered nominating her for an award, you have been looking for a new job, and have been blacklisted because your current PI does not know your situation. Can you clarify?
– cag51
2 mins ago
I'm a bit confused on your timeline. In the past couple months, your current PI has been "very pissed off", you have considered nominating her for an award, you have been looking for a new job, and have been blacklisted because your current PI does not know your situation. Can you clarify?
– cag51
2 mins ago
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If you're staying in their field, you're going to run into them sooner or later.
Some suggestions.
Certainly do not approach either one. If they attempt to talk with you casually, you can either immediately excuse yourself by pleading previous business (meeting someone, etc.). If one attends your talk and tries to derail it or asks questions that seem inappropriate, shut them down, perhaps by one of the techniques listed in this answer.
If you are not seeing a mental health professional, you may want to do so. The right one will be able to help process what has happened and give you tools for dealing with it, and with other situations that might happen in the future.
answered 4 hours ago
mkennedymkennedy
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First of all, I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this.
I would ignore them in the conference. I don’t know if this motivates you, but going to a conference, doing an amazing job and still shining in my field despite their sabotage attempts would be really satisfying to me.
On a professional level, if your job requires conference attendance and you categorically refuse for whatever reason, it will not help your career. Don’t let them sabotage you further!
answered 3 hours ago
SparkSpark
3,6422420
Those people harmed me to the core, I left the country where I was to another country where was a prison for me, very low payment. Even after being with a new employer in a new country which I am thankful, I still some how affected with all the pressure I got in the last six months ago, it wasn't easy at all. I know it is off-topic but harming wasn't easy.
– Monkia
42 mins ago
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If you're staying in their field, you're going to run into them sooner or later.
Some suggestions.
Certainly do not approach either one. If they attempt to talk with you casually, you can either immediately excuse yourself by pleading previous business (meeting someone, etc.). If one attends your talk and tries to derail it or asks questions that seem inappropriate, shut them down, perhaps by one of the techniques listed in this answer.
If you are not seeing a mental health professional, you may want to do so. The right one will be able to help process what has happened and give you tools for dealing with it, and with other situations that might happen in the future.
answered 4 hours ago
mkennedymkennedy
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add a comment |
If you're staying in their field, you're going to run into them sooner or later.
Some suggestions.
Certainly do not approach either one. If they attempt to talk with you casually, you can either immediately excuse yourself by pleading previous business (meeting someone, etc.). If one attends your talk and tries to derail it or asks questions that seem inappropriate, shut them down, perhaps by one of the techniques listed in this answer.
If you are not seeing a mental health professional, you may want to do so. The right one will be able to help process what has happened and give you tools for dealing with it, and with other situations that might happen in the future.
answered 4 hours ago
mkennedymkennedy
1,6801225
add a comment |
If you're staying in their field, you're going to run into them sooner or later.
Some suggestions.
Certainly do not approach either one. If they attempt to talk with you casually, you can either immediately excuse yourself by pleading previous business (meeting someone, etc.). If one attends your talk and tries to derail it or asks questions that seem inappropriate, shut them down, perhaps by one of the techniques listed in this answer.
If you are not seeing a mental health professional, you may want to do so. The right one will be able to help process what has happened and give you tools for dealing with it, and with other situations that might happen in the future.
answered 4 hours ago
mkennedymkennedy
1,6801225
If you're staying in their field, you're going to run into them sooner or later.
Some suggestions.
Certainly do not approach either one. If they attempt to talk with you casually, you can either immediately excuse yourself by pleading previous business (meeting someone, etc.). If one attends your talk and tries to derail it or asks questions that seem inappropriate, shut them down, perhaps by one of the techniques listed in this answer.
If you are not seeing a mental health professional, you may want to do so. The right one will be able to help process what has happened and give you tools for dealing with it, and with other situations that might happen in the future.
answered 4 hours ago
mkennedymkennedy
1,6801225
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First of all, I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this.
I would ignore them in the conference. I don’t know if this motivates you, but going to a conference, doing an amazing job and still shining in my field despite their sabotage attempts would be really satisfying to me.
On a professional level, if your job requires conference attendance and you categorically refuse for whatever reason, it will not help your career. Don’t let them sabotage you further!
answered 3 hours ago
SparkSpark
3,6422420
Those people harmed me to the core, I left the country where I was to another country where was a prison for me, very low payment. Even after being with a new employer in a new country which I am thankful, I still some how affected with all the pressure I got in the last six months ago, it wasn't easy at all. I know it is off-topic but harming wasn't easy.
– Monkia
42 mins ago
add a comment |
First of all, I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this.
I would ignore them in the conference. I don’t know if this motivates you, but going to a conference, doing an amazing job and still shining in my field despite their sabotage attempts would be really satisfying to me.
On a professional level, if your job requires conference attendance and you categorically refuse for whatever reason, it will not help your career. Don’t let them sabotage you further!
answered 3 hours ago
SparkSpark
3,6422420
Those people harmed me to the core, I left the country where I was to another country where was a prison for me, very low payment. Even after being with a new employer in a new country which I am thankful, I still some how affected with all the pressure I got in the last six months ago, it wasn't easy at all. I know it is off-topic but harming wasn't easy.
– Monkia
42 mins ago
add a comment |
First of all, I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this.
I would ignore them in the conference. I don’t know if this motivates you, but going to a conference, doing an amazing job and still shining in my field despite their sabotage attempts would be really satisfying to me.
On a professional level, if your job requires conference attendance and you categorically refuse for whatever reason, it will not help your career. Don’t let them sabotage you further!
answered 3 hours ago
SparkSpark
3,6422420
First of all, I’m sorry to hear that you’re going through this.
I would ignore them in the conference. I don’t know if this motivates you, but going to a conference, doing an amazing job and still shining in my field despite their sabotage attempts would be really satisfying to me.
On a professional level, if your job requires conference attendance and you categorically refuse for whatever reason, it will not help your career. Don’t let them sabotage you further!
answered 3 hours ago
SparkSpark
3,6422420
answered 3 hours ago
SparkSpark
3,6422420
answered 3 hours ago
SparkSpark
3,6422420
answered 3 hours ago
SparkSpark
3,6422420
3,6422420
Those people harmed me to the core, I left the country where I was to another country where was a prison for me, very low payment. Even after being with a new employer in a new country which I am thankful, I still some how affected with all the pressure I got in the last six months ago, it wasn't easy at all. I know it is off-topic but harming wasn't easy.
– Monkia
42 mins ago
add a comment |
Those people harmed me to the core, I left the country where I was to another country where was a prison for me, very low payment. Even after being with a new employer in a new country which I am thankful, I still some how affected with all the pressure I got in the last six months ago, it wasn't easy at all. I know it is off-topic but harming wasn't easy.
– Monkia
42 mins ago
Those people harmed me to the core, I left the country where I was to another country where was a prison for me, very low payment. Even after being with a new employer in a new country which I am thankful, I still some how affected with all the pressure I got in the last six months ago, it wasn't easy at all. I know it is off-topic but harming wasn't easy.
– Monkia
42 mins ago
Those people harmed me to the core, I left the country where I was to another country where was a prison for me, very low payment. Even after being with a new employer in a new country which I am thankful, I still some how affected with all the pressure I got in the last six months ago, it wasn't easy at all. I know it is off-topic but harming wasn't easy.
– Monkia
42 mins ago
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I don't think we could possibly answer this for you.
– Azor Ahai
4 hours ago
I'm a bit confused on your timeline. In the past couple months, your current PI has been "very pissed off", you have considered nominating her for an award, you have been looking for a new job, and have been blacklisted because your current PI does not know your situation. Can you clarify?
– cag51
2 mins ago